Embracing Sexual Self-Discovery with Rosie Rees Part One: Sensuality, Yoni Eggs, and Intimate Communication

This is a two-part episode with Rosie Rees - because one wasn't simply enough!
Imagine feeling completely at ease with your sexuality, where every whisper of touch is a step towards profound self-assurance. Our candid conversation with entrepreneur Rosie Rees, the visionary behind Yoni Pleasure Palace and more, is an intimate exploration of that journey. Rosie, who traded the corporate ladder for a path in sexual empowerment, shares her transformation and how she's leading others to harness the power of their sexual wellness. We're breaking open the silence that often shrouds adult sex education, especially for women and vagina owners, and replacing it with a dialogue that's as necessary as it is enlightening.

This episode is us having a relaxed conversation discussing our experiences, bodies and learning insights into practices like the yoni egg, a tool for deepening the connection with your body and sensuality. Rosie recounts her own path to self-discovery, revealing how personal consent and boundaries are the cornerstones of true empowerment. We also venture into the world of female pleasure and fluids, demystifying topics from the role of hydration in female ejaculation to the emotional landscape that fosters such intimate experiences. And if you've ever been curious about glass and crystal pleasure toys, Rosie's expert eye for aesthetic and functionality will illuminate how these beautiful tools can lead to sexual healing and exploration.

Lastly, we tackle the heart of sexual relationships: communication. From the pitfalls of unmet orgasmic expectations to the transformative potential of worship sessions, Rosie offers practical strategies for maintaining a spark in long-term partnerships or to simply reconnect with your own body to have better sexual experiences.
Join us for the first part of our candid chat with Rosie, where we laugh, learn and she teaches us, all while celebrating the journey towards a more empowered, confident, and pleasurable sexual self.

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Transcript

Chrystal Russell: 0:00

Welcome back to another episode of Bearing it All with Rose and Crystal. Today's episode is super, super juicy.

Rose Oates: 0:11

Yes, it is so. For far too long we, especially as women and vagina owners, have not really been fully educated on our own bodies, especially around sexual wellness and pleasure. It is often met with shame or taboo surrounding something that is so important and very normal and you know what? It's bloody necessary. So, with that said, today we are welcoming Rosie Rees to the podcast. Rosie is a sex toy entrepreneur, a modern day nudist relationship and sexuality coats and body image activists.

Chrystal Russell: 0:45

She started the movement Stop Sucking it, in which we both absolutely love mind you, I did a post quite a few years ago about Stop Sucking it In.

Rose Oates: 0:54

Love it, but it doesn't stop there. Rosie is also the founder of Yoni Pleasure Palace Splash Blanket, the Yoni Golden Membership, and the creator of Naked Awakening Women's Nude Yoga Workshop. This and more. We are so excited to have her on today and talk more about our bodies, our sexual health and our yonis.

Chrystal Russell: 1:17

And some toys perhaps.

Rose Oates: 1:20

And maybe learn a little bit about some squirting.

Chrystal Russell: 1:23

Let's get to it. So we want to welcome Rosie Rees to our podcast.

Rose Oates: 1:29

Thanks, guys, thanks for having me. Thank you so much for taking the time this has been like a few weeks coming.

Chrystal Russell: 1:37

We've been trying to organise dates and just to get you in here and so much stuff has been happening and Rosie's been feeling a lot of feels around today. I do. She'll have to deep dive into that. We both are, yes, but we obviously want to start with all of the things that Rosie has done which is like wow, mind-blowing. She's definitely a boss, babe.

Rosie Rees: 2:03

Thanks, yeah, thank you, I am. I am now. I wasn't always, yeah, but I've definitely been on this boss journey for the past 10 years or so, started in 2014 and yeah, basically, a little jade egg workshop in Bali just blew up my life and, yeah, the rest is history.

Rose Oates: 2:22

It's pretty, pretty exciting what were you before all of this? What were you before?

Rosie Rees: 2:28

you were the yoni queen that is such a good question. Oh my god, what the fuck was I? I was a finance recruiter get out of here, yeah you would never pick it um and before that.

Chrystal Russell: 2:45

I was a waitress. Okay, I see the waitress.

Rosie Rees: 2:49

Yeah, and a promo girl. I was a Heineken girl for a while there.

Rose Oates: 2:53

Yeah, I could imagine that, but then a finance recruiter to what I would call the yonny confidence queen. If there's a body confidence queen, this is the yoni confidence queen sitting beside me and I'm so excited. I really am because bodies, our health, women's health, people that own a vagina, I feel passionate about because I didn't grow up in a, in a household or even in an era where we learn a lot about our bodies. So, and I think, like I'm 39, I've just turned 39. So, if that gives you an idea, I'm an older millennial. But, like health, ed was condom on a banana. Our organs, female reproductive system meant that we were. You know, this is how you make a baby. It was all about reproduction. And then they spoke about male masturbation, but not so much female masturbation.

Rosie Rees: 3:54

Wow, you got more than me. I didn't even get the banana and the condom. I didn't even know, like my dear old mum didn't even tell me about getting a period. I mean, I knew there were pads in the bathroom, but we never had the chat.

Chrystal Russell: 4:10

The period chat.

Rosie Rees: 4:11

No, there was no talk in my I call it a silent sex education. I didn't have any school education or parental sex education.

Rose Oates: 4:21

Did you go to a Catholic school? Then I did Okay, so I went to a public.

Rosie Rees: 4:25

Yeah, it was um Presbyterian Lutheran and Catholic.

Chrystal Russell: 4:29

Ah so just yeah, how about you, chris? I went to a public um, but family, pretty much the same like never had the sex chat, besides my dad once or twice talking about a black girl as a joke in front of my Mormon friend. Love that. That's another story For them, and you but never had the sex chat. I don't remember if we had a period chat. I think my friends told me about because I got my period one week before my 18th birthday.

Rosie Rees: 4:58

Oh, that's so late.

Chrystal Russell: 4:59

Yeah, so we thought that something was wrong with me. But I had all the checks done and they were like no, she's a late bloomer. I got called surfboard the whole way through high school I had no boobs. Now I've got lots of boobs but, yeah, like never had those chats and I remember my friends at like a 13th birthday sleepover being like, have you got your period? And me being like, well, I don't have my period. And they all had their period. So I think I learned from them.

Rose Oates: 5:24

That's exactly how I felt. So our household, I have an Italian family, so my mum really didn't know anything. She had the silent sex ed from her mum and then period. She tried to have a chat about periods with me and I was literally the meanest teen on earth and I was like get out of my room. I know I did health, health, don't talk to me, because it was that awkward there was too late.

Rosie Rees: 5:48

If you're having the chat and I always say this to clients, like if you, if you're telling your kids about it at 12, 13, it's too late, it's too late you need to be.

Chrystal Russell: 5:57

I guess, exposing them to your period from me, from from the age they are born, really like well, my daughter's nine and we've had the full period chat and I even ask her, like she's already started to spot and like she already knew, like way before, and it didn't scare her no.

Rosie Rees: 6:15

Exactly. I was so scared when I was 13 and it was Athletics Day, of course it was. It was that brownie blood and I honestly I thought I'd shit myself. I was like the fuck is this and then I spent even to the, into the afternoon, into the night and had a shower and it was still there. But it was coming out and it only just dawned on me it was this is my period. Yeah, oh, it was such a shock and we didn't have google.

Rose Oates: 6:40

No. So that's the thing, that when I'm talking about older millennials or like our age group, it's because you couldn't just Google it Like now. I think even if you're not educated by your parents or you don't a hundred percent know kids, can kids, teens, adults we can Google this stuff. I mean, it's not always the best avenue, but at least the information's there and it's also why it's so important and why we wanted to get you on, because we just don't know, even as adults. There's so many women that actually have you've probably experienced it a lot with what you do but even myself and Crystal, they don't know about their bodies or about sex or even how to self-pleasure. Some haven't even ever self-pleasured.

Rosie Rees: 7:25

This is why I'm so passionate about adult sex education. Like it's not too late to learn all this stuff in your 20s and 30s and 40s. Or even like I've had women come to workshops of mine, 50 plus, who've just discovered their clitoris. It's like it's never too late. But it's because we're not taught as young kids, and hopefully that's all changing now.

Rosie Rees: 7:43

But really it's down to the parents, because you can't rely on our school systems to be giving adequate sex education, and so I'm passionate about educating mums and dads and parents about. You know the ins and outs of self-pleasure and consent and boundaries and you know what to do in those circumstances, so as not to pass any shame on to your kids and empower them yeah, I feel like for me having a boy like I, even though he's 13 and he gets super awkward with me having these conversations.

Chrystal Russell: 8:14

But I have definitely talked a lot about consent with him lately because not, I'm not saying that women girls do, but I don't want him to ever have sex with somebody and then be like, hey, I didn't say yes to that. So I was like you know, when you are ready to have sex, you need to make sure that you're asking is this okay? You don't need their signature on a piece of paper, but you need to make sure that they're consenting to it, because the last thing you want to do is have them turn around and be like well, actually I didn't say yes to that.

Chrystal Russell: 8:49

So, even though he gets awkward, I'm having those conversations already with him, because my doctor has made me very aware that boys are having sex from the age of 11. Oh wow.

Rose Oates: 8:59

So young. But this consent conversation as well, I don't even think adults understand it entirely, and this is why it's so important that we are starting to educate parents and our youth. But also we need to be educated on consent and to know that it's actually okay to be halfway through actually having sex, I think even, and being like you know what, pull the pin, I'm not ready, I can't do this at the moment. That also, you don't have to continue with the act.

Rosie Rees: 9:31

Marital rape's a thing. Yes, and I think just because we're in a relationship doesn't mean automatic consent all the time, consistently, forever. Yeah, like there's been moments with Ash where I've been like I don't consent to that touch, or like you know, it's important to be able to know what you want.

Rose Oates: 9:48

So communication yeah.

Chrystal Russell: 9:49

Yeah, I would think it would be massive in marriages, to be honest because, how many times do men or women just expect that they are to have sex with their partner?

Rosie Rees: 10:01

Yeah, I have a lot to say on this topic, see.

Chrystal Russell: 10:08

And it's like I had this conversation with a friend two days ago and she just said to me that like it's like a chore because they expect it, and she's like I'm not their sex slave so and I was a bit like whoa, that's a lot, yeah it is a lot.

Rosie Rees: 10:25

I was at a naked yoga recently and the woman I was paired with um in in the vulnerability kind of sector. Have you guys done new yoga yet? Okay, well yeah, that's your homework. Um so, and she mentioned she knows she wasn't in a good place with her husband and that he would just roll her over in the middle of the night and just fuck her and it's like oh, that is I, that is I mean there's a lot of unpacking there, but that's rape and just because you're married doesn't mean that's okay, which he would think that that wasn't.

Chrystal Russell: 10:53

Yeah, yeah.

Rose Oates: 10:54

And she may have even been taught or learnt that, oh, you're married, you know.

Rosie Rees: 11:00

That's your duty. It's just what you give to your husband.

Rose Oates: 11:02

Is this really primarily a female thing that we've been taught that, like they're like in regards to males, especially that it's one, it's almost like putting one person's pleasure over another.

Rosie Rees: 11:17

Yeah, I think we've girls have grown up to think that they need to give pleasure to a boy or a man to please him, and that's, that's their role of pleasure. Yeah, is is just to give the pleasure to them. Actually, your pleasure has nothing to do with it.

Rosie Rees: 11:33

And it wasn't until I was like 26 and had my sexual awakening that I realized I was just giving giving my yoni, my pussy, to men on a platter for their pleasure and I hardly ever got off, yeah, and it's almost like no one sort of tells you that it's just kind of sneakily in movies and porn and you know.

Rose Oates: 11:55

Society. It's almost like we've been taught that it's not empowering in that sense, like it's like putting somebody else's needs and pleasure before your own, and, whereas I feel like it should be equal, there should be some sort of equality it's the epitome of people pleasing.

Rosie Rees: 12:13

It's just putting someone else's needs above your own, putting someone's yes above your no, and that's something I always tell people. It's like make sure your yes is more important to, or your no is more important than somebody else's yes. Oh, that is, your no is more important to, or your no is more important than somebody else's yes.

Rose Oates: 12:26

Oh, that is powerful.

Rosie Rees: 12:28

Your no is more important than somebody else's. Yes, yeah, absolutely.

Chrystal Russell: 12:34

I would drive behind that car and be like, yeah, yes, hell to the yeah, and this is okay.

Rose Oates: 12:40

So let's go into the yoni egg then, because this is how you, at 26, you had your sexual awakening. I did, and you were saying it was in Bali in 2014 and it pretty much changed your life.

Rosie Rees: 12:53

Yeah. So before that I was in Sydney. So I graduated from uni. I wanted to be a journalist. I graduated at the GFC. Like there was just no, literally no job. So I thought I'll just take off over to Europe, do the backpacking thing. And then, after a few years and too many beers and you know just a few addictions that I didn't need, I thought I've got to get my shit together. So that's when I ended up in Sydney as a corporate recruiter and I was really good at that job and I ended up getting quite close to my a co-worker who became my boss and he was lovely at the time and then, quite soon into the relationship, he was toxic and, um, just the you know, a narcissist. Basically a lot of emotional manipulation. I was just a shell of myself. I didn't have a voice. I had no. Was that a romantic relationship? It was.

Rosie Rees: 13:44

Yeah, we were in a relationship for a year, so um, but it started as like coworker and then I kind of moved into a relationship and then I went to a Tony Robbins seminar Unleash the Power Within and I just woke. It's like I literally woke up. I walked over the fucking hot coals. I came back, I dumped him Um, I needed police. Thank you, tony. Horrific, literally.

Rosie Rees: 14:05

I have Tony to thank for so much and quit my job, went to India first, became a yoga teacher, had this full spiritual awakening. So I can kind of thank that awful time in my life in Sydney as a finance recruiter, in an awful relationship, because if it wasn't for that I wouldn't have gone. I wouldn't have looked within and wanted to actually love, learn to love myself, because I was just broken. I was so broken. And then I ended up in Bali doing a second yoga teacher training and went to this J-Dig workshop and it was so out of my comfort zone at the time I was like this is so fucking woo, woo, what is all this about?

Rosie Rees: 14:44

But then we were all in this like semi-circle out in the jungle, doing like this feminine yoga, touching our bodies, chanting, sounding, and then we were wearing a big, long skirt with no undies on so we could basically put this egg in our vagina. Yeah, and we got to that part and I remember putting it in my vagina and it was just Like it's hard to explain, it was just this wave of healing, it's like wave of reclamation, like this is your pussy, this is your part of your body. And it was the first time I'd ever engaged with my yoni in a way that wasn't needing to give pleasure to a man or get some kind of validation for myself from sex or an orgasm or something. It was like connecting to my pussy in a way that wasn't sexual, but it was loving and kind and gentle.

Rose Oates: 15:34

Which I don't think we do. We don't. We don't do that to our vaginas, no, but I'm also trying to picture this round circle of everyone putting eggs inside. We're all facing out.

Chrystal Russell: 15:44

Oh okay, I was like, are we doing it in?

Rosie Rees: 15:46

We're facing out semicircle, facing out, and I was like looking like, is everyone doing this? I'm like God.

Rose Oates: 15:52

And then you know, popping it in Because I remember putting my egg in from the first time and I was like I need to really like work out where, how, it was going, I was squatting.

Chrystal Russell: 16:01

Yeah, I don't know if that's yeah, I was squatting.

Rose Oates: 16:04

I was sitting in front of the mirror.

Chrystal Russell: 16:05

But I won't lie. I saw that it had little holes and I was like hmm, what are the little holes for? After I popped it in, I then went into instant freak out mode. This thing is stuck.

Rosie Rees: 16:16

I feel like this is a rite of passage. So I get so many calls from like friends, like people have bought them, and I guide them to how to get it out, because it's a one way street. It's not, you know, the cervix is closed it can't go into your stomach. No, you cannot absorb the egg, guys, but I mean it can get if you've got a long vagina, and vaginas range from like six centimetres to about 16 centimetres. What so if you've got little fingers like me, like?

Rosie Rees: 16:40

it's hard sometimes, like it can really sneak up, but if you relax, it's about relaxing, because if you tense up it's going to get worse.

Chrystal Russell: 16:49

I think a friend of ours went to hospital, didn't she Really? Yeah, because it got stuck and she went to the ED.

Rosie Rees: 16:53

She couldn't relax and she was like she just needs me on the phone and I would have guided her. So you just put your fingers in, you squat yeah, like you're going to do a bush wee, and then you just insert your fingers and scoop it down and out.

Chrystal Russell: 17:07

Well, that's how you would use it if you were freaking out like I was. So just use the string, yeah.

Rosie Rees: 17:12

Is this a tooth floss that you use? It's unwaxed, unminted floss, so it's like an eco.

Rose Oates: 17:17

You do not want mint on your vajidge. All right guys.

Rosie Rees: 17:19

God, no, fuck me I think I used tooth floss once I've had such an experience with minted things.

Rose Oates: 17:32

No, no ph levels. Oh my god. Okay, there's this stuff. This is like going off a bit I have this stuff called rocket fuel which is like it's so good. But I had actually put a few drops on my tongue and then I put a tampon in and I don't often use a tampon, but I'd wash I just it you didn't wash enough off your fingers it's got peppermint oils, all these things, and mate it was on, blows your head off fire like my vagina was breathing it was like this.

Rose Oates: 17:55

It was like I could breathe easy and it was minty, fresh. Fuck me, I bet she could. She was breathing for ages. I couldn't wash it off. Apparently someone said I had to get a neutralising oil like coconut oil, coconut oil. So I slathered it in some coconut Slather it. I think I had coconut something. But yes, this egg that I'm holding of Rosie's has a string. So if you're starting out, you can actually have one with a string. Mine didn't have a string and mine definitely was up there for a while and then I was like my god, it's not coming out and I really.

Rose Oates: 18:32

What was amazing about the egg is I had to relax and it got me in tune with my body and I was like relax, like and how my breath helps me, and it like by just controlling my breath. I started like you never think about your breath. You think about yoga, you think about breath and you think about your body relaxing and I know, I don't know why this is so weird. I never think about my vagina relaxing and my yoni and my and my vulva and everything in there, but the muscles in.

Rose Oates: 19:01

That was just like, oh, and then it popped out, it just slid on out. I could feel it dropping and I was like, oh my, my god, like it's so important, like that's where I realized I made it into like this little practice in the morning, when I was having my cup of coffee, I'd pop it in. And even Tato, my four-year-old like, is obsessed with this egg. And we, like, because I also have the what do you call it? The little pelvic floor ones, oh yeah, the kegels. The kegels, yeah, because I've had four kids so I just wanted to strengthen that a bit as well. So we do coffee and Kegels oh I love that. Or coffee and Mayoni egg, and she's like what's this egg? And she'll play with it. I'm like put that egg down.

Rosie Rees: 19:38

Because it's not just about tightening and toning. It's actually about relaxing as well. Because you can just like squeeze around the entrance of the vagina and then imagine like you're sucking it inwards and upwards, like you're hugging the egg inside you, if you imagine you had an egg inside you and I tried to do that just then. And then you'd pull it up towards your cervix and then you need to relax as well, it's like doing a sit-up for me.

Chrystal Russell: 20:01

I think I'm really weak, like that hurts not hurts, but it's like my muscles are like when.

Rosie Rees: 20:06

It's like my muscles are like when you have an egg in there, it gives it like something to hold on to. So it's like a weight resistance and it does build pretty quickly. The muscles build and get more toned and you can hold your wee for longer. People are probably like why are you putting an egg in your pussy? For pelvic floor strength? That's why we're doing it.

Rose Oates: 20:25

So do you find that the awareness through the egg is huge of like your body and your vagina?

Rosie Rees: 20:31

Yeah, so when you have the egg in you can't really feel it too much. I don't know if you've noticed that you don't feel the egg in. Over time I can feel it more and more, but it's more like afterwards. So you wear it for an hour or so, even if it's five minutes. You know a lot of women say it falls out after five minutes, and that's really normal.

Rosie Rees: 20:51

Just wear your knickers at home, otherwise it'll crack onto the floor. And yeah, so it's about building that sensation and it builds up lubrication, natural lubrication. It's helped me heal layers of sexual trauma as well, so I started squirting After using the egg, I started having internal orgasms and squirting.

Chrystal Russell: 21:13

I need to use my egg again because I was, like recently, saying like she dry, like the desert sometimes.

Rose Oates: 21:20

So it increases natural lubrication.

Rosie Rees: 21:23

Because there's more blood flow. So you're wearing quite a heavy. I mean this is about 80 grams. You're wearing an 80 gram weight resistance inside your pussy. The muscles, even though you can't really feel it, the muscles are working to hold that egg in generally when you're standing up, if you're sitting down, not so much, and if it does fall straight out, like, just start with sitting or lying down or even sleeping. But when you stand up, it's, it's working and that's why you don't want to leave it in too long because you could fatigue the muscles. So I've accidentally left mine in for like a whole day.

Rose Oates: 21:52

Wow, I've done it for hours.

Rosie Rees: 21:54

And then you get this like pain because your muscles are tired. It was achy. Yeah, they're like enough. I'm cramping, I'm like fatigued. I love this.

Chrystal Russell: 22:04

I get scared after five minutes.

Rosie Rees: 22:11

Yeah, you need the string. Yeah, you need string, you need string. And then something I'd recommend for you if you have that fear, because that's really common is to put your fingers in you beforehand so you can feel how deep your vagina is, and that you know, okay, it's not gonna hide or get stuck or lodged in there forever like feel where your cervix is. Yeah, because then you know, like this, because so many girls don't feel comfortable to put their fingers that's what I was just about to butt in and do you know, I do now.

Rose Oates: 22:38

Okay, I mean I had to like there was. I was scared there was kids coming out. You know things like that. But also how many women don't know their parts? I know, this is like really sounds really like basic education, I think that's common. But it is so in all the polls that I've ever done, in all the questions it's they know they have a vagina, the inside.

Rosie Rees: 23:02

So the vagina is the inside passage or canal, whatever you want to call it. That leads to the cervix, which is like the neck of the uterus. So the uterus is inside, beyond the cervix, and then you've got your fallopian tubes and ovaries, but the vulva's on the outside, the vulva's on the outside and I think that's where you know. Everyone just calls this whole thing a vagina. It's kind of like calling your face a neck oh.

Chrystal Russell: 23:28

Or a throat. You should have brought your little vagina. I know Damn.

Rose Oates: 23:32

This is because, like, we're just starting at the basics, because I feel like so much there's not enough knowledge or topics like places that you can go as an adult.

Chrystal Russell: 23:43

Well, I thought your vulva was your clitoris.

Rosie Rees: 23:47

Yeah, so I need my vulva puppet but, like, the vulva is the whole outside area of your vagina. So you've got the pubic mound yes, and then you've got the clitoris, which is the gland yes, the most important part, clitoral, and it's just the tip of the iceberg. So if I had the mold of the clitoris, it's actually got these two little legs and two bulbs that extend inside the vagina and that makes up kind of like the urethral sponge or the g-spot. So you're kind of stimulating the clitoris from inside. When you've got that, come here the fingering motion goes um, so you've got the clitoral hood.

Rosie Rees: 24:23

Some people have a clitoral hood, other people don't.

Rose Oates: 24:25

Um, then you've got the inner labia and then the outer labia, which is the fleshy mound on the outside so many working parts of these okay no wonder some partners and men have no fucking idea what they're doing when they go down there, because if we don't understand it, how the heck are they going to exactly?

Rosie Rees: 24:43

it. Just sit in front of the mirror and like literally pull it up and have a look at like how big your clitoris is, how small it is, because there's micro clits as well. I've got a really big clitoris and it's so just cool to know like there's like five different I checked mine out after birth I was like, let's see the damage.

Rose Oates: 25:00

Yeah, but it would be, it would be quite in engorged it was and it had stretch marks, it would on it. Yeah, because well, baby it stretches a lot through a bit. It stretches a lot, mate, you've been through a bit. I know we don't give it enough credit, mate, and then the urethra.

Rosie Rees: 25:14

This is stuff that you can show your daughters as well. It's like the urethra. So many people don't know that we don't pee from our vagina, we pee from the urethra, and that's kind of where the squirt can often come from.

Chrystal Russell: 25:31

This is what I was like. I need to know this Squirting.

Rose Oates: 25:34

Squirting 101.

Chrystal Russell: 25:36

When you squirt one, is it urine? No, well, there's elements, there's urea particles, okay, and I was like are we weeing when we're squirting, or is it some other form?

Rosie Rees: 25:49

It is coming from the bladder, but if you were to like empty your bladder before sex or stimulation and then squirt, there will be tiny particles of urea because it's coming from the same hole. But it's like this whole like prosthetic fluid, psa is in it, and so it's, yeah, created whilst you're really aroused it's just yeah, but it comes from the same place it does.

Rosie Rees: 26:16

Okay, there's like there's squirting, which is kind of like when you gush, and it's quite a lot of clear fluid. And then there's um, and I know it's like in tantra. It's called emrita, it's like female ejac, which is quite creamy and like a milky, milky fluid and that comes from your skates glands. So it's, I mean, it's all gets blended into one really, and it's just if you are really hydrated, you feel really turned on, you feel really safe and someone's basically you can have it with an, or you can squirt with an orgasm or without an orgasm, internal penetration or not. Internal, like I need internal penetration, rubbing up against my G-spot to squirt. Other people just need some clitoral stimulation and they're going for it.

Chrystal Russell: 26:59

But are we talking? Squirting like a little bit? Are we talking like what are we?

Rosie Rees: 27:05

Well, there's gushing, there is gushing, but that's often glorified in porn to just it's like the more the better and like that's a lot of women drinking a lot of water and just performing, okay, but that's happened to me spontaneously many times, you know, out of the blue, but there's like tiny like, even if it's just like a little spray it's just when you're feeling really safe and comfortable, because I was like I don't know that I ever have squirted, but maybe this is some homework. It does require you to relax and like really open.

Rosie Rees: 27:37

I feel like I'm pretty relaxed, but I don't you have, though, haven't you?

Chrystal Russell: 27:39

Yeah, the face.

Rosie Rees: 27:41

What was the circumstance for you?

Rose Oates: 27:44

Well, you know what Craig actually was like, the one that was like you know, like women can squirt, and it wasn't through porn. He actually was looking it up and I was like, okay, I was like because we were talking about male g spots and female g spots and I think it's really important. He's come from a background um that, like myself, sex doesn't get talked about. You have have sex, you have kids, whatever, but we don't talk about that. It's a no-go topic. It's an uncomfortable situation in his family. Actually, my family is quite a lot more open now. We just love freaking, joking about it together and being dirty and ridiculous.

Rosie Rees: 28:29

Especially them seeing your splash blanket promos.

Rose Oates: 28:31

Oh my god, my brothers have really I mean, some of them have been there helping throw the water on me or whatever yeah um, yeah, it's something that has obviously been in very what's the embrace it's, it's, it's a lot for Craig's mum and dad. Um, so Craig has been really amazing and open to learning about things and also like learning about the male g-spot. So I was like he went and looked up the female g-spot and we had a play. We actually it was. It's a lot of communication to make it comfortable and I was scared.

Rose Oates: 29:09

I was like it feels like I'm gonna wee, yeah, and it does for me like at first, and so I would hold off. So I'd get there and I'd be like I'm gonna pee all over you. But he was really good. He was like who cares?

Rosie Rees: 29:23

yeah, he's like, even if it is pee, like I was just if it feels good you got your splash blanket down.

Rose Oates: 29:28

I actually took my splash blanket today, but it is 100%. No, it holds up to a litre of fluid, guys, and is fully machine washable. She went there.

Rosie Rees: 29:40

My ambassador sitting right here, no joke.

Rose Oates: 29:44

I have about five and it's my favourite thing and they're so warm. Anyway, that's another thing. You can get one. I'll put it in the show notes. You will not regret this.

Rosie Rees: 29:55

I am telling you now. Well, I often say you know, your mind is your biggest sex organ and these blankets are a psychological sex toy. Like when you have it underneath you, you are more willing to release in that goal and make a mess, because as kids we're often unconsciously ashamed by our parents for wetting the bed. It's just inconvenient, like so when we're adults and you're encouraged to literally wet, you're like let it go, it's.

Rose Oates: 30:18

There's this mental block, yes, so having that also, you don't want to dirty your bed and you don't want to be sleeping in a wet spot, which, honest to god, it is my biggest pet hate when I go back to bed. I've had a good time and I'm like I'm always lying in the wet always it's always my side, yeah, and.

Rose Oates: 30:32

I sometimes so strategic, actually get raged about it like. I'm like looking at him like it's our fault and I was like, why is it always my fault? Like yeah, whatever. Um, but yes, I think there was an element of uh, having to relax, having my partner be very okay with it. I was just like get your face away from it.

Rosie Rees: 30:53

Like yeah, because I was really so. Maybe you need their face more up near your face, kissing you or sucking on your nipples or something like. Sometimes you don't want to do it in their face and that will shut you down.

Rose Oates: 31:04

There is definitely a comfort level, I think as well. But I think there's also an element to understanding your own body. I I didn't try this with Craig personally until I had experienced and experimented with myself more, which took a lot of relaxation, like ditching shame around, uh, female masturbation and actually understanding my own parts. So how often, often do you get that, that people like what we were just talking about understanding all the different parts of our bodies? What is our clit? Where's our clit? Where are we peeing from? How many holes do we have?

Rose Oates: 31:42

Like is that really essential? How essential is it really to good sex? And how important is self-pleasure?

Rosie Rees: 31:51

Yeah, oh my gosh Well, self-pleasure for me. I discovered it when I was 19. I'd just ended a relationship with a boyfriend. He was the only one who could make me orgasm, and so I actually probably hung on to that relationship a bit longer than I probably should have, because I thought he held the key. But then I went to a sex shop and I bought a vibrator, and that's when my relationship with sex toys began, and I'm always grateful for vibrators for that, because vibrators helped me discover my clit and how to make myself climax. But then I kind of desensitized myself.

Rosie Rees: 32:25

And that's just because of my genital anatomy. There are people and I explain this a lot on my Instagram like you can use vibrators and if you can use it three times a day and still not be desensitized the next day, good for you's not my body type. If I use it once, I get pretty like it's hard for me to have an orgasm the next day or even for a week or so yeah um.

Rosie Rees: 32:46

So when I discovered the jade egg, I had a big message to my body, a few things actually to go off the pill, which I did. Um, it told me to stop using my vibrator and just actually go within. I had this message like stop focusing so much on your clit and actually like build this sensation using the egg inside my vagina and wake it up. And I did. I started like I just actually masturbated with my egg.

Rosie Rees: 33:11

That's how it started. And then I was like I just want a crystal dildo, damn it. And so that's when I started designing them and making different shapes and sizes and the sacred square, because I wanted to wake up inside my pussy. And now I always say my vagina is like a clitoris inside there, like it's. Oh, I think that's what we want yeah, like and.

Rosie Rees: 33:30

I I believe everyone can wake up their yoni. I think it requires a lot of self-healing, so like releasing layers of shame and guilt around like, yeah, putting your fingers in your vagina and it's not just like the vagina, the actual word vagina.

Rosie Rees: 33:48

It means sheath for a sword in latin, and it's like your vagina is more than a birth canal and somewhere to for a penis owner to put their penis it is. It is a wealth of pleasure sensation available to you in there, um, but you have to wake it up and you have to be willing to go in, and I think that is very key.

Rose Oates: 34:08

You've got to be willing to go in literally in turn, and it's I.

Rosie Rees: 34:12

This is how I masturbate, I, and didn't don't even call it masturbation anymore. It's like just self pleasure. Um, so, making that little distinction. For me, masturbation is popping a clit, a clit on my vibrator, a vibrator on my clit and just buzzing away for 30 seconds. That's like getting something done. Not no shame in that. Sometimes you just want a quick tension release and that's okay. But if I want to self-pleasure, I you know, I'll put a splash blanket down, I'll sit in front of my mirror, I'll massage my breasts, I'll breathe, I'll put some music on, light a candle, set an intention and then, like Matt, like I use so much lube, like I am covered my whole vulva, I like give her a full vulva massage. Yeah, good, Like a full body massage and that just wakes everything up. And then it's like the most. If anyone watched me like fly on the wall, they'd be like really.

Rose Oates: 35:04

It's like so slow Now I'm really It'd probably be a turn on for people.

Rosie Rees: 35:12

It's like because all the dildos on Yoni are glass and crystal.

Rose Oates: 35:17

They're actually really beautiful.

Chrystal Russell: 35:19

Pretty. They're so beautiful yeah. Like it doesn't look like this one reminds me of like a long tongue.

Rose Oates: 35:25

It does so at the moment I'm holding. Is it a crystal? Is this just?

Chrystal Russell: 35:30

a glass. This is a squirter, isn't it? Is this a squirter? Yeah, sacred squirter.

Rose Oates: 35:33

I've got the sacred squirter and it's just got these ridges on it. It does look like a little bit of a tongue. It's actually stunning Like they're beautiful looking dildos Any ASMR with that one I don't.

Rosie Rees: 35:47

Oh, he actually. You've got the nails too, can you?

Rose Oates: 35:49

hear that, guys.

Chrystal Russell: 35:50

It's beautiful and I think but that looks small to me. Oh, you know what.

Rosie Rees: 35:57

That's too big for most people. If the only feedback.

Rose Oates: 36:00

I get from people is it's a little thick?

Chrystal Russell: 36:03

Okay, I feel like that might be small for me.

Rose Oates: 36:08

Okay.

Rosie Rees: 36:09

So We've got a dildo for you it's called the rocket.

Chrystal Russell: 36:13

I think I've seen it.

Rose Oates: 36:14

Now, when it comes to vagina owners, does size matter?

Rosie Rees: 36:20

Yes. So I like something quite thick and wide and short. So Sacred Squirter is my jam and I love the bumps. Other people do not like the bumps, so we've got something called the Pussy Paddle which is super sleek and smooth and you know the Squirter that'll take minutes, like a long time, for me to just insert in. It's like it's not, you don't just shove it in, it's like a real sensual, mindful experience and you can feel every bump and every ridge. That's that's the intention, I think, for resensitizing your vagina, to feel so, because so many pussies are so numb and desensitized, because it's a friction sex, because of trauma, just disassociation, like we just haven't been taught to connect, like even if we did touch our yonis when we were little, often we were like don't touch that, that's dirty.

Rosie Rees: 37:09

That's right, and so that sticks. And so you have to re-educate yourself as an adult woman to connect to this part of the body that we've been told to not touch.

Rose Oates: 37:19

Oh my God. My girlfriend has always said to me for a very, very long time sex was dirty she. When it came on the TV when she was sitting with her parents, they all would freak out a little bit, pretend it wasn't on all their parents. Her parents would change the channel and so, even as she got older, even in her marriage, she would associate sex with doing something wrong, and it really, really blocked her for years, years.

Chrystal Russell: 37:51

I actually did this last week. We were watching the Plan with Jennifer Lopez where she like tries for a baby on her own because she hasn't met the one anyway. So she meets a guy and then they're like ripping each other's clothes off on this table and my daughter was sitting next to me on the couch and I was like, oh, quickly, pause it. And then she goes mom, they're not naked.

Rosie Rees: 38:10

And I was like, oh, they're not, it's a movie I think that that is so unrealistic, the way they have sex in movies, but still.

Speaker 2: 38:17

But the way she said it too. I was like, oh, okay.

Rose Oates: 38:19

But also you're not the only one that does that, and even now we need to, it ends with us. This is how I'm I'm holding. What is this? This is the cervix serpent. That one's a bit scary. I'm sorry, I'm holding the cervix serpent.

Chrystal Russell: 38:32

It almost looks like a sperm.

Rose Oates: 38:34

It does, it does. She looks like a sperm, but I want the shame. This is the 3.0. This is the third generation, the 3.0, yes, yes.

Rosie Rees: 38:43

And this is to be able to reach the cervix, because cervixes often are poked and prodded and scraped and rammed and they can. I think cervixes have a lot of well in my own experience sensation and nerve endings, but they're kind of treated like they don't. So which end goes in Either way?

Rosie Rees: 39:06

So the really pointed fine end is for de-armoring. So if you, you can use that and that's why it's so long. So you can use one end as a handle and go in and just gently press, kind of like mapping your yoni from six to nine, twelve, three o'clock and pressing on different segments for three to five seconds, taking a deep breath in, and then when you release the because you can use your finger, you don't need the cervix serpent, but sometimes little fingers and fingernails and stuff is just not hygienic, I might describe it just for anyone listening and not watching it is.

Rose Oates: 39:39

how long is this?

Rosie Rees: 39:41

It's about 23 centimetres.

Rose Oates: 39:42

Yeah, that's long, it's 23 centimetres long, and just think about all the little cartoon sperms you've ever seen in your life. It looks like a little sperm. It's actually. It's also quite pretty, but it's not thick.

Chrystal Russell: 39:55

No, so it's sleeker A lot of women feel like I'd whisk my cocktail with that, though yeah, I mean I'm sure you could.

Rose Oates: 40:01

It's a glass, it's clean too yeah, it's borosilic glass.

Rosie Rees: 40:06

It can go in the dishwasher if you want it to. Hey, that's this is the ultimate clean toy. Well, this is, like the most you know, highest grade body safe toy you can get your hands on that'll last forever. You know you can pass this down to your children if you wanted to, but are they?

Chrystal Russell: 40:22

correct me if I'm wrong. Are they smash proof? No, you could still smash it they.

Rosie Rees: 40:26

These ones are annealed and tempered, which means like they've gone through this extra process when they're um making them. So if there's any imperfection it'll just blow up in it. Yeah, okay, so if you drop it it shouldn't break, but if you drop it from a high level onto concrete it probably will.

Chrystal Russell: 40:43

Because I've had this conversation with friends about your business and they're like crystal toys, is that dangerous? And I'm like no, no.

Rosie Rees: 40:50

Does that question get asked a lot there are crystals that you shouldn't put in your pussy for sure. We only sell crystals that are totally safe. I mean, some people think that rose quartz isn't safe. And you know I've been using rose quartz in my vagina for 10 years and I'm alive and thriving, so I'm good. I think it's just a matter of just checking it. Like we have a third party as well who check, and obviously my staff who check every single crystal that goes out.

Rosie Rees: 41:15

So there's no imperfection on the crystal. But if you're worried and this is why I brought in glass, because sort of five years into my business I thought some people don't want crystal- and crystal is expensive and it's heavy and it is more breakable. So if you do drop it it will break a lot easier than glass.

Rosie Rees: 41:31

So then I brought out the glass um line of dildos and they're just. They're more affordable, you know, they're lighter weight. They obviously don't hold that sort of vibration if you're into crystals and like the energy. But for me, to heal those layers of sexual trauma I had to use a black obsidian dildo. Yeah, yeah, definitely clears out the bad juju all of this.

Rose Oates: 41:55

I know, but then actually can I go back to the question? I think we were going that way and then we got distracted by these pretty pretty dildos of the shame around sex in general, especially for females. Why we hold it in the first place, I think, can really affect our sex life and our orgasms and even feeling like we can self-pleasure without guilt. I have spoken to a lot of girlfriends actually, and some just feel awkward. Even talking about this would be awkward, let alone even when they're on their own. They feel awkward to start touching themselves it it.

Chrystal Russell: 42:41

It almost feels shameful even on their own but that comes back to the growing up thing again, isn't it?

Rosie Rees: 42:47

it is yeah, it is. It's. There's layers of cultural upbringing um religion yeah religion's big oh my god, yes like you know, there's stories, like people have said, like if they masturbate or touch themselves they'll go to hell. Yes, I heard that I don't know go blind. I've heard so many stories. Oh my God, Go blind, fucking hell.

Rose Oates: 43:06

Yeah, every guy we know would be bloody blind Literally.

Rosie Rees: 43:10

So true. And then it's like, as an adult, we get to unpack that and we get to rewire our relationship to our yoni and, yeah, like our parents were just doing the best job they could and we can't blame them. You know, we need to take it into our own control and our, you know, reclaim it. So, yeah, gosh.

Chrystal Russell: 43:40

But I think too, like I've had this conversation with girlfriends before, some of my friends have been embarrassed to orgasm in front of their partner. What? Yeah, because it's like do they look, do they make a weird face or do their eyes roll, or like it's maybe not as sexy as what they're picturing in a porn. I'm not not sure.

Rosie Rees: 43:56

It's also the you're the most vulnerable and exposed and open ever when you are being sexual, especially when you're giving oral or receiving oral. That is as vulnerable as it gets and, like I think, a lot of women don't let themselves go or don't let their partner go down on them because of the fear of the smell and the look and the taste and it's like, no, we really need to, you know, re-educate people around this and normalize being vulnerable, because that that's what it is.

Chrystal Russell: 44:30

it's scary, but yeah, you gotta have. You have to be vulnerable to let yourself get into that full thing of like letting go.

Rose Oates: 44:37

It ends with us guys. We can stop this cycle. Also, how, like your, partner treats you.

Rosie Rees: 44:44

If your partner doesn't create safety for you to want to open, then it could be a red flag, like I've been blessed with many amazing partners and I've had incredible experiences except for once or twice. Amazing partners and I've had incredible experiences except for once or twice. But yeah, like if they don't let you, if they don't, if they're judging you, or like don't pee on me, kind of thing little comments like that, or about smell or they don't go down on you. Yep, fucking red flag.

Rose Oates: 45:10

I agree, or conversations need to be had. At least start communicating how that makes you feel, because as much as we talk about like, females don't know about their bodies, their men don't know about female bodies they haven't been taught either so it's just as important and also a lot of women don't want to guide their partner into hey, move your hand here, move this there.

Chrystal Russell: 45:33

Like I won't lie, I do it a lot. Yeah, like just a tiny bit to the left.

Rose Oates: 45:39

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. No, I don't either.

Chrystal Russell: 45:42

So nice and also I'm not gonna waste like an hour, like just move a little tiny bit to the right and then we're good.

Rose Oates: 45:49

Yeah, I had to like make Craig tell me what feels good for him yes because I think, even for him, as a penis owner, he didn't they sort of think that there's only one way for them to orgasm and I was like does this feel good? Do you like this? So I started asking, even if it was weird, just popping my head up hello do you like it?

Rosie Rees: 46:09

side to side, or up and down, or around and around?

Rose Oates: 46:12

and he used to say to me sorry, craig, it all feels good. And I was like yeah, but does this feel better?

Chrystal Russell: 46:19

Yes.

Rose Oates: 46:19

And that communication, like it just.

Chrystal Russell: 46:22

And how many people are having those conversations. I can guarantee not a lot. But it's important, I think have those conversations with your partner.

Rosie Rees: 46:30

People don't like rejection. That's true so they don't want to hurt feelings and they don't yeah, they don't want to express what they really need in the bedroom. Yeah, and I think at the start you've got to really set the tone from the start of the relationship, but also in saying that it's never too late, all I can say is don't fake your orgasm. Yes. And if you are stop now, start again, okay.

Chrystal Russell: 46:52

Because then when you do actually orgasm, your partner's going to be like what the fuck was all the other times.

Rose Oates: 46:57

Yep, I think huge peak Like let's take that from Rosie today. If you are faking an orgasm, you're going to stop today because you're not doing yourself any favors, or your partner or your future partner.

Rosie Rees: 47:09

Also, the way you self-pleasure or masturbate is different to the way you have sex and we need to realize that you you know, just because you masturbate in a certain way doesn't mean that's what you need in sex, um? Or conversely, maybe you need to incorporate something that you do in self-pleasure in the bedroom, for example, incorporating in a vibrator, um, and, and not being shamed for that. There's nothing wrong with that if you need the vibrator and, by the way, like what is it? 70 or 80% of women can't climax without clitoral stimulation.

Rosie Rees: 47:39

So, if you're having a lot of penis and vagina penetration and if you're not coming, you need clitoral touch whilst you're getting penetrated. So if you need to rub your clit. I remember getting like judged by this tantric guy I was with who didn't want me to touch my clit during um sex to get like well you, then you need to he, he thought it was not spiritual enough oh oh, like clitoral orgasms were. Yeah, like not glory, like spiritual glorified and like yeah okay, that question for that can everyone orgasm internally?

Rose Oates: 48:20

can we all have that in? You know like I can orgasm clitorally, but I struggle more internally. So is it something everyone is capable of?

Rosie Rees: 48:32

I believe. So yes, I really do. And when you're having a clitoral orgasm, do you notice that your vagina clenches as well? So it's still it's like a blended orgasm when you do have that clitoral, especially when you have something inside you. So if you're not having internal orgasms, maybe you're not having enough internal penetration. You really do need a finger, a dildo or a penis or something, a strap-on in your vagina, rubbing up against the G-spot, the A-spot, the P-spot, the cervix, to wake it up and like sometimes it's pressure, sometimes it's speed, sometimes it's the tempo, like you know, sometimes it's going really slow, like slowing the fuck down and building up the pace and that communication piece as well.

Chrystal Russell: 49:25

But this comes down to like spending time in the bedroom, not wham bam. Thank you, ma'am.

Rose Oates: 49:30

I think there's a time and a place for a quickie, isn't there, but it's often not in our best interest to do it all the time. But quality over quantity Are we like? Is that?

Rosie Rees: 49:42

I'm going to say that, yeah, oh definitely Like I recommend couples to have like one time a week where they're going deep, like just even if it's a half an hour or an hour once a week on a Sunday morning, or whether it's nighttime or daytime, find when your like power hour is when you're not distracted. Kids aren't there. Lock the doors you know, whatever you need to do.

Chrystal Russell: 50:06

We laughed in Bali, remember? Yeah, rose was bent over a bathroom sink. Oh, because I had the Door closed and I think Craig was shutting the door with his leg while yous were having a shower.

Rose Oates: 50:18

Yeah, because I hit myself on the tap.

Chrystal Russell: 50:22

And at breakfast we were losing it, laughing, because I was like what did you get up to this morning? You were like well, I was bent over a bathroom sink. It was like this guy.

Rose Oates: 50:31

I was holding on for dear life, so I was holding on to the two taps and then like the two handles and then I went forward and he had his foot half on the door because this was a tiny bathroom, because we have four kids in the room and he slipped and I've pushed forward and smacked into the tap, but so sex injuries sex injuries.

Rose Oates: 50:53

We were cracking up and but was so obviously I didn't get off. But the fun and the laughter. It was the connection for me there. It was the connection and we were just cracking up Like I had a little red mark for ages. I saw it at breakfast. That's classic, yeah.

Rosie Rees: 51:11

So I think you need that like closeness once a week, at least once a week. Well, ash and I have a rule we don't go two weeks without yes, I call it connecting, sexually connecting. And if you go beyond two weeks, that's when it's a slippery slope, because then you can go push it out to a month and then you don't have sex for a few months and then, before you know it, it's a year, yeah, and there is so much resentment and so much emotional shit and baggage between you and it's?

Rosie Rees: 51:38

it's almost like you desexualize your partner and they become like a friend and then you don't look at them like a lover anymore and you don't fantasize about them and the like. You have to want to have sex and like listen, I've been going through grief over the past six months and I haven't wanted sex very much, but we do still have that rule. Every two weeks we connect in some way.

Chrystal Russell: 51:59

I think that's really important. Yeah, I think having that not a rule, but it's kind of like you know something in place that like if we get over the two-week mark, we need to have a chat about what's happening, because you're bickering more usually You're a bit more snappy at each other.

Rose Oates: 52:15

You know, you're not as happy having the conversation. What I'm not putting out.

Chrystal Russell: 52:19

Devon is a bit angry at me. There's something that you can.

Rosie Rees: 52:22

You can also it doesn't have to be penis in vagina sex. It could be like I. I think it's really important to have like worship sessions where you receive fully and you don't have to give to them. It's just about you fully receiving like. When a woman can feel like she can just let the fuck go and she knows in her head okay, I'm after this, I'm gonna have to like go down on them or whatever you are just receiving, and if they want to masturbate after they can.

Rosie Rees: 52:45

But it's, it's just about you, wow. And then switching turns at another night where it's just about him or it's just about her and you're just giving to them. And I like that, because men, everyone loves being worshipped in some way, but men particularly like a good blowjob, but like giving to him fully being present is you know, with no expectation, I agree.

Rose Oates: 53:09

I think that's also a nice way to spice it up, change things up in the bedroom a bit.

Rosie Rees: 53:14

Yeah, getting a massage, yoni massage Dress up as a financial advisor, pretend you're back in the bedroom a bit.

Chrystal Russell: 53:18

yeah, getting a massage you any massage dress up as a financial advisor, pretend you're back in the corporate job.

Rosie Rees: 53:22

Oh, don't remind me yes.